JANE

 JANE

As most of you know, I was removed from my home at the age of five. Even after being removed, I would end up back there from time to time—whether for a home visit, a trial placement with my family, or just between places to stay. One thing was certain: I always had to make new friends and adjust to a new neighborhood. 

Looking back at this story, I understand there was a reason for these temporary stops in my life. Some of you reading this, who have been removed, can relate to my story. Home is always where we wanted to be, no matter how bad it was. We always sought the words that screamed home. It was a tradeoff to be home and endure the torture that was soon to come. No matter what that looked like, the rest stop was a much-needed break from the mental and physical stress that living outside of the family brought. Unless you have lived this, it’s almost impossible to imagine these emotions. That’s why I am writing about this now—to give insight into what I call a rest stop. It seemed to be a beautiful place because for the first weeks at the rest stop all the principals involved had to be on their best behavior. This could last for weeks, but eventually, the transition would happen, and the removal would inevitably take place. It was a part of the system—a process that, while not perfect, did offer me some degree of protection. 

If I remember correctly, I was about nine or ten years old and at yet another rest stop. I found myself back home in a single-wide trailer in a new trailer park on Buffalo Road in Raleigh, NC. The trailer was nearly brand new, and my brother and I had our own room to share. It sat at the end of one of the many streets in the trailer park. 

By the time I arrived, my family had already settled in, but for me, it was unfamiliar—I was a new kid. The neighborhood kids had plenty of questions. Who are you? Where did you come from? I didn’t know how to explain it, so I said I was there for a short time. Eventually, the questions faded, and I found my place in the social order. 

At the end of the street, I was met by a family who lived in a double-wide trailer; if you’ve ever lived in a trailer park you know that the double-wide people seem to have a step up on the regular park people, but that was not the case here. My first encounter with them was so irregular that I was caught off guard. Their daughter, Jane, saw me riding my bike at the end of the street, and she came out to talk to me. She invited me into their home, and I was met by her younger sister, Elizabeth, two older brothers, Rusty and Tommy, and, of course, her mom and dad. Her dad was an extremely tall man with a raspy voice; Jane’s mom had a voice that would warm anyone’s heart. Entering their home was calming, and I felt so safe. It was restful to my soul and spirit. 

Jane and I became best friends over the next few weeks and then that turned into months. My principals were maintaining a strict code of conduct, and I was even trying to be better at being better. I spent most of my time at Jane’s house and even spent the night there on many occasions. I had dreams that they might even adopt me. I had all but moved in with them. I had become good friends with her brothers as well. This family was one of the first of many rest stops who brought peace to my soul and showed me an unconditional love I didn’t know how to accept. 

Jane and I would put playing cards in the spokes of our bike wheels and ride around the park, laughing and having the best time that life could bring anyone. We built forts in the woods and sat for hours talking about our lives. She accepted me for who I was. But in the back of her mind, she knew I wouldn’t be there forever. I had shared with her on many occasions that I would soon be leaving, moving on to yet another place. Even now, as I write this, I feel a mix of sadness and peace. This was the first of many rest stops in my life. 

Then, the time came for me to leave. Jane and I had one last conversation, asking the same questions: Will I ever see you again? Will I ever talk to you again? The answers were always, Of course, but deep down, we knew the truth. 

As the car drove away, I turned back to see Jane standing beside her bike waving goodbye. 

I never saw Jane again. I’m sure she grew up to be a wonderful person, and I know her family welcomed the next person at the rest stop. That was their gift to humanity—to be that place of solace and refuge for those in need.

The rest stop. Be sure to take one now and then. They are placed in your life and have a purpose. Take the time and allow yourself to pause—even if it’s just for a moment—to rest. 

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The River

The River

Every river has an undercurrent that seeks to pull you down and destroy your life. It’s called the undertow, or undercurrent. It’s taken me seventeen years to bring this story from being buried deep within to the surface. 

 

It was a beautiful sunny day, not too hot and not too cool. Just right some would say. The cookout was in full swing, honoring those who would serve the whole summer in an endeavor that would surely change lives for generations to come.

 

The undercurrent of the river could not be seen; it was a slow flowing river that seemed to be beautiful on the surface. Evil was lurking just below its calm exterior.

 

The Meramec River, or more commonly known as the river of death, was deceptively dangerous. As some waded out into the water, laughter cried out, and it was a joyful occasion. It was beautiful but there was an undercurrent that day that no one saw coming. As more people waded out into the river because the current looked so calm, the river was not speaking anything but peace and harmony in the moment. Then suddenly the undercurrent took over!

 

My voicemail to this day says, “George, give me a call; give me a call, there has been a tragedy.” It was about two in the morning, and I was out of a cell service area. The next morning I arose early and went to a location where I could get a cell signal and made the call. 

 

My friend answered with urgency and told me what had happened. “They died; they all drowned, five of them, George.”

 

I didn’t know what to say, other than “Why did God allow this?”

 

She said, “God didn’t; the devil has orchestrated this evil.”

 

The undercurrent had pulled them under, dragging them to the bottom of this godforsaken river—a river that had claimed lives before and would surely do so again. All five of them left a profound impact, altering the course of those they left behind in their wake. I was one of the few directly affected, swept up in the aftermath. The impact of their loss changed the course of my life forever, as it did for everyone involved in this tragedy. The undercurrent not only pulled them under but also left the living broken and haunted. That dam river! I hate that river. And I hate even more that it’s taken me seventeen years to finally write about it. 

 

I have always referred to them as the five—five souls who brought so much life to this world and had so much to share with humanity. Who would ever know now? The river of death claimed them,and now where are we? Living…but are we? What has the undercurrent done to us, the ones left behind? As I sat on the shore of the lake, I stared blankly into the horizon—a lost soul looking for direction, asking God, Why? What happened? Why didn’t you see this coming? I was angry! If you are God, then why did You allow this? My questions seemed valid I thought, but they required no response from my God who created me and who holds the universe in His hands. 

 

My soul sank to a new depth. Death could have received me in that moment, and I am sure I was not the only one who felt that way. 

That was supposed to be the greatest summer of all times. We had planned to reach out to so many wonderful inner-city kids who had never seen the breathtaking nature of a lake, been on a boat, or even tried water skiing. Then the undercurrent happened. The evil that it holds, and the slow, unseen current beneath the surface, are always present. This undercurrent seeks to destroy us all. 

 

At that time in my life, I truly wanted to disappear. It wasn’t entirely about me or even this event, but something had shifted profoundly, leaving me with a deep, desperate wish to no longer be on this earth. The undertow is real. It doesn’t just destroy those caught directly in its grip; it pulls at anyone near its edge, gradually drawing them in without their even realizing it. Suddenly, they’re struggling to stay upright as it pulls them under. 

 

A particular song resonated so deeply with me that I clung to it, and it sparked a shift in the neighborhood between my ears. 

Linkin Park’s Numb, captured exactly what I was feeling—a sense of being overwhelmed, weighed down by pressures beyond my control, and gradually becoming numb to everything around me. 

 

I had become numb to the emotions causing me such intense pain. This is the point where you realize you’re in a dark place, with the undertow threatening to engulf you into the phantoms of death.

 

This is the place where so many struggle to survive, where suicide can feel like the only escape from the unbearable pain. It’s a place where your smile, your laughter, and even your words can hide what’s really happening in your soul. You don’t know the power of the undertow until it pulls you down and holds you there. It’s dark and lonely, even with friends and family nearby. The undertow is where we all struggle to become more like Him, calling on Him with everything we have. 

 

In the undertow, we feel numb but long for life. At rock bottom, hope feels lost, and in that place of despair, we cry out for something—anything—to bring us back to the light. 

 

Then it happens. Hope shows up. It might come from a trusted friend, a daughter or son, a coworker, or even a stranger who has seen your struggle and offers you a smile, a hug, or an encouraging word—just enough to change everything. 

 

That’s how the undertow works. It holds more than just death; it holds hope and a God who reaches out to bring you through. He strengthens you through this undertow, showing you that you can make it. 

 

No matter how strong the current, how deep the numbness, we must never quit. This world needs you and the purpose you bring to humanity. Fight with everything you have—fight for your loved ones, for life, and against the undertow that seeks to destroy you. Let hope rise to the surface and bring light to a new season! Breathe!

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